Let’s be honest here - self-awareness is a bit like eating your greens. You know it’s good for you, but it can be a bit bitter and hard to swallow. And just like your greens, it makes you stronger - though instead of bulking up your biceps and keeping you regular, it strengthens your ability to navigate life without tripping over your own ego.

Now, wouldn’t it be lovely if we all had a magic mirror that told us exactly who we are, what we need to work on, and how we come across to others? Instead, we have colleagues giving us the look, family members sighing heavily, and friends who hesitate just a little too long before saying, “No, really, you’re fine.”

The good news? You don’t need an awkward intervention to get a grip on your blind spots. The even better news? When used properly, self-awareness is your ultimate superpower—capable of transforming your relationships, career, and personal growth faster than you can say, "Was I really that annoying?"

So, let’s dive into the art (and occasional horror) of self-awareness: how to spot your own blind spots, why other people sometimes know you better than you do, and how to turn brutal honesty into personal growth (without spiralling into existential despair).

1. The Trouble with Blind Spots (AKA: You’re Not as Self-Aware as You Think You Are)

If you’ve ever watched a reality TV show and thought, Wow, how does this person not see how ridiculous they are?, congratulations—you’ve spotted someone else’s blind spot. The tricky part? You have them too. And unfortunately, they’re just as cringeworthy.

Blind spots are the bits of ourselves we fail to see, like spinach in our teeth, but significantly more life-altering. They show up in:

• The way we react when challenged (Me? Defensive? Never!).

• How we assume we’re great at something when we’re actually… not (Britain’s Next Top Dancer? More like Britain’s Next Top Disaster).

• The habits we think are endearing but are actually mildly irritating (I don’t interrupt; I just enthusiastically contribute!).

So, how do you identify these blind spots without needing a full-scale intervention?

Spotting Your Blind Spots

• Listen to Feedback (Without the Immediate Need to Justify)

• If three different people tell you that you’re always late, perhaps it’s not a global conspiracy against you.

• Pay Attention to Patterns: If the same issues keep showing up in your work or relationships, spoiler alert: you might be the common denominator.

• Ask the Right Questions: Try this terrifyingly effective one: What’s one thing you think I don’t realise about myself, but I really should? (Bonus points if you don’t immediately block the person who answers.)

Is effective listening letting you down? This can be the key to you mastering your self-awareness! Read our article on effective listening!

2. Why Other People Sometimes Know You Better Than You Do

Imagine you’re walking around with a Post-it note on your back that says, ‘Talks too much when nervous’ or ‘Secretly scared of failure’. Everyone around you can see it—except you. That’s essentially what happens when we lack self-awareness.

Psychologists have a term for this: the ‘Reflected Self’, meaning that sometimes, we learn about ourselves through the eyes of others.

And yes, this can be annoying. Who are they to know us better than we know ourselves? But the truth is, our brains are excellent at self-deception. We cling to comforting narratives about who we are, while others see the reality in high definition.

How to Use This to Your Advantage

• Be Curious, Not Defensive. Instead of assuming feedback is an attack, treat it like valuable market research—on you.

• Observe How People React to You. If people tend to tune out when you speak, maybe you’re over-explaining. If they bristle when you offer ‘helpful advice’, perhaps it’s coming off as criticism.

• Ask for ‘Feedforward’ Instead of Feedback. Instead of asking what’s wrong with you (yikes), ask: What’s one thing I could do differently to be even more effective? Less painful, more productive.

3. Turning Brutal Self-Honesty into Personal Growth (Without the Self-Loathing)

Here’s the thing: self-awareness is a gift, but it can also be a bit of a punch to the ego. Realising you’ve been the workplace micromanager or the friend who never listens isn’t exactly a confidence boost. But rather than spiralling into self-loathing, let’s talk about how to turn brutal honesty into genuine growth.

How to Use Self-Awareness for Good (Not Self-Destruction)

• Accept That You’re a Work in Progress. No one is born perfectly self-aware. Even Buddha had to meditate under a tree for 49 days before he got it together.

• Laugh at Yourself. The best way to survive the cringe of self-awareness is to embrace it. “Oh wow, I really do start 70% of my sentences with ‘Not to be rude, but…’” Own it. Then change it.

• Celebrate Your Strengths Too. Self-awareness isn’t just about seeing the bad—it’s about recognising the good. If you know you’re a great listener or a top-notch problem solver, lean into that too.

• Turn Awareness into Action. Knowing your flaws isn’t the endgame. Growth comes from doing something about them. Start small—if you realise you tend to interrupt, practise pausing before you speak. If you’re a chronic people-pleaser, set one tiny boundary today.

Final Thoughts: The Superpower You Didn’t Know You Needed

Self-awareness isn’t about beating yourself up for your flaws. It’s about owning who you are—strengths, blind spots, and all—and using that knowledge to become the best version of yourself. It makes you a better leader, a better partner, a better friend, and, crucially, someone who is far less likely to go on Big Brother thinking they’re the hero, only to find out they’re actually the villain.

So, next time you look in the mirror, remember: it’s not just reflecting your face—it’s reflecting your potential. And that, my friend, is a superpower worth mastering.

Now, go forth and be brilliantly, self-awarely you! Just, maybe, check your teeth for spinach first.

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